Handfasting is the traditional marriage of Scotland. It is also the origin of the saying 'tying the knot' comes from as the couple would stand beside each other and two ribbons or cords were tied around their hands as they made promises to love and take care of each other.
The Handfast can be part of your legal wedding, renewal of vows or handfast (wedding blessing) if you wish.
There's a bit more history to it and, during a ceremony, I explain what the handfasting is to your guests - you may have seen it in a film (i.e. Braveheart!!) but it is a very lovely tradition here in Scotland.. and still active in Scandinavia and the Ukraine!
What a great way to present your new addition to your family to all your loved ones. Through a party and invite everyone along.
Vows & Promises from those closest to your new baby (Guide-parents, Aunty, Uncle, Best Friends).. and I always research you're babies full name - the meaning of which may even surprise you! One baby had a name which basically meant 'red headed King'... and he was!! 🙂
Again, I will guide & help you all the way and you can have your 'baby naming' anywhere.. your local club, a hotel, at home...
It can be noisy & unpredictable with lots of little ones running around.. but it will be fun!!!
It is certainly not easy when you lose a loved one. But I will try and make it as comfortable and I will be as supportive as possible. I'm a listener and I will visit you (at a very highly emotional time) and listen to your needs and your stories and will deliver a memory of a life at your loved ones funeral and/or memorial.
The reason I really became a Celebrant (over 15 years ago now) was.. well.. My Mothers Funeral. When she passed away, after a very long illness (me & Dad took care of her 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for months) the Minister (she was a little bit religious/spiritual) listened to us, her family, and he delivered the best funeral I had ever been at. Funny stories, quirky things she did.. her favourite music.
After that, when I attended other funerals of family & friends, I realised there was nothing in them about the person. And I decided I could do better. Everyone should have a 'Celebration of Life' like my Mother.
In 2012 I conducted my own Fathers funeral in Cornwall. We played his favourite songs (The Northern Lights of Aulde Aeberdeen, Doris Day, Laurel & Hardy), my sister read some Rabbie Burns and I told stories about my Dad (who was Doric). I did my very best for him as I do my very best for every family.
I will try to bring smiles and some laughter and most importantly I will listen to you and do my very best. Because everyone deserves the best...
David and I would like to thank you so much for the wonderful ceremony you conducted. Everyone has told us how much they loved and how different and personal it was. It had many people in tears. We were both extremely happy and moved by what you created . It has been great being able to share the kids naming ceremony and our wedding with you. Thanks again. Leanne and David x
We would both like to thank you so much for marrying us, for making the ceremony everything we wanted and unique to us. We had a perfect day. Your advice and help leading up to the wedding were hugely appreciated and we would recommend you to anyone a hundred times over. Mr and Mrs R
xxx You are Legend. The Groom!
You’ve got this amazing calming influence. Lorraine
We thought our renewal of vows was going to be cancelled. Thank you for stepping in and making it so lovely and special. Hilary I loved the Scottish Handfast so much. Now my husband wants a Celtic costume and a sword! Helen
Thank you so much for helping us, we have had such a lovely day despite the rain! People have been asking if you’re a member of our family. Nic
I had no idea about what my boys name meant and it’s just so funny now. I always just loved it but hearing what it meant was brilliant. I love it even more. Thank you so much. Nicola
Thank you for being so patient. You really made us feel at ease and everyone loved the ceremony. Cheryl
I can’t stop smiling, thank you. (Nanna)
I can’t tell you how wonderful everyone thought the service was. Thank you so much
That was so much better than I thought it would be. I was very nervous. Thank You
Lovely, really lovely. Thank you so much
That was the most beautiful service I have ever been to. And, believe me, I go to a lot of funerals You really got her… that was her to a T.
Thank you so much I cannot believe we got everything sorted in so short notice. This morning I was in panic mode, now I feel quite calm!” (First meeting with the family for a Funeral Service)
I just wanted to email you and thank you for the wonderful service you did for my Mum. It was lovely. I could not have wished for anything more. Thank you
That depends on what type of Ceremony and the location
Do you come to the Wedding meal afterwards? That's up to you.
That's up to you. I don't 'expect' to be invited, in fact I'd rather you had your family/friends there (I know how expensive wedding's can be and I'd hate to take the place of someone you wanted to invite!). I may stay for a wee drink and Congratulate you
I am in America and I'd like to do something special for my partner - can you help?
Anything at all that I can do to help. If you need to arrange everything by email, it's fine. And if you need help finding a location in your budget just let me know. I'm always out and about.
When should I book you for my Wedding?
As soon as you have your date! It's not unusual to have a booking made 1-2 years before the Big Day so it's vital that you get your date, venue, celebrant and band booked as soon as you can.
What if you are not available on my date?
It may happen! But, don't worry, I have several lovely colleagues who I can recommend.
Where can I get married?
Anywhere in Scotland; in a garden, hotel, castle, palace, ruined historical sites, outside, inside, at home, on a boat, up a mountain.. (except some religious buildings)